Because disagreement is difficult and painful, our natural tendency is to try to rush for resolution immediately. And the quickest resolution would always be for someone to cave: if other people would just change their mind and agree with us, everything would be fine! Or else, we can quickly dismiss our own needs or convictions in order to keep the peace! Is it possible to slow down enough for both sides to feel heard and valued? How can we avoid rushing to a quick fix that leaves someone getting steamrolled?

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